I've been scanning CraigsList in my New England area. Almost all the grapple attachments are from dealers, new and range from $1300-2000. I have been focused on quick attach (for my Kioti DK40se). I have no real experience with them. I suspect my interest is like yours in that I have land that needs thinning and like the concept of a big hand to move these things larger and faster than possible with my own gloved hands.
In my case I have a rear remote, but it would need to be plumed forward. The dealer quoted me around $1200 to add the second remote and run a set of extensions to the front. I don't think two remotes are needed for most grapples, but a few looked like they might have independent left and right "thumbs".
I suspect I may also use the front remotes to control a quick attach plow some day.
There seem to be a lot of options around here for grapple styles. I have looked at some that are very narrow and almost look like you could trench with them. Others are very open and do not look strong enough to handle picking up a decent sized rock, while others have many forks on the bottom and look like reasonable rock buckets. Since I live in NH, The Granite State, I have plenty of rock on my land. It ranges from unmovable down to baseball size that are just annoying to pull from the road by hand.
For me the perfect grapple would be a rock bucket with 3 or 4 inch gaps in the bottom ribs, sideless with an independent pair of two 2 tine thumbs (1 foot gap on top) on each side of a 5 or 6 foot bucket. I believe I saw one that is very close to that description for about $2k.
My thinking is that I would use the rock bucket to sift rocks from the driveway, and deposit in the wet areas of my logging roads. The "thumbs" would be used in dependently to grab a log, or brush. Used together they should hold brush fine. I think a 2 tine top thumb with a decent gap would allow a good grip on a 2 foot roundish rock. A second independent thumb has the potential to grab a 2nd rock on each pass.
Keep in mind this is all theoretical and I could be completely wrong
